In today’s throwaway society we throw everything away even if it is still very useful. Our mates included. There are so many choices and it is so easy to hook up online that if you know how to play the game you can have a different lover every night even if you are an ugly male. It is that easy. But lovers are not mates. They do not satisfy the soul or the heart. Yet, they are so easily replaced that we often do not care to work hard to keep them.
A relationship no matter how long it has lasted can be thrown away in a second; and now with the advent of text messaging, you do not even have to hear the crying or anger on the other side. Clean, surgically cold breakups are easy! Hooking up is easy and breaking up is easy, so why should be wear the same old worn out shoes for years when we can wear a different pair every day? Simply because those shoes are so perfectly shaped to our feet that compared to new shoes they comfort not only our feet but our heart and soul!
If you measure a relationship simply by sex, it makes sense to switch every so often to get fresh experiences. Let’s face it, the same partner year after year can get boring (if you do not work to create fresh experiences)! But a mate from a committed relationship is way more than sex. There are many priceless things that they bring to the table:
- Extreme understanding—knowing you better than you know yourself many times from years of experience with your personality;
- Loyal support—sometimes the world seems to turn against you and there is nothing like a well-known face, touch, and kiss to comfort and reassure you that no matter how much life changes you have a champion on your side always;
- Familiarity—the old saying There is no Place like Home rings true for a long term mate, no matter where you turn and how many arms hold you, no one holds you better and makes you feel better than those familiar arms that know exactly where to hold, how to hold, and exactly how hard and for how long to hold you and let you know that “these arms are your heart’s and soul’s home”
Of course there many more priceless reasons why a long term mate is just what you need but they all start with knowing and appreciating what you have!
There is no such thing as 100% compatibility. If you achieve 85% compatibility consider yourself lucky if you achieve 95% compatibility consider yourself beyond blessed. So do not throw away a long terms mate that understands you, supports you against a cruel world, and is the home of your heart—just because of a few annoying traits. We are all riddled with imperfections but like the warm reassuring taste of a hol-ly Swiss cheese our mate fills in some of those holes perfectly and accepts the ones they cannot fill in!
Short term relationships fulfill the body and the ego but like Chinese food we are left empty one hour after it is over. With a long term mate we are filled with the warm familiar taste of macaroni and cheese that hits the right spot and keeps our hearts and souls full! Work harder to keep something good and what is simply good may reward you with priceless gifts that last a lifetime!
Work harder to keep something good and what is simply good may reward you with priceless gifts that last a lifetime!
There is no such thing as 100% compatibility. If you achieve 85% compatibility consider yourself lucky if you achieve 95% compatibility consider yourself beyond blessed.
Short term relationships fulfill the body and the ego but like Chinese food we are left empty one hour after it’s over.