You know those individuals whose lives are such in a rut they have no idea of ways to get out. You see those ones who realize that everything in their relationship is lethal for them as well as their family. They have no idea of ways to get out of the situation to rescue themselves and those who are being impacted by all of the negativity.
You might wonder with many years of emotional abuse why would you stay. No, there wasn’t physical abuse, but, statistics reveal that emotional abuse is as if not worse than physical abuse. You must get to the point in which you ask yourself; why should I hold on to what you did, it’s your hurt not mine. You did this to me and I will let it go and give it back to you. That pain that you gave me I am giving it back to you.
An individual has to find it within themselves to express enough is enough and also have the attitude to express to themselves concerning the abuser, whenever you leave, it will leave. I cried my last tear for you, my heart skipped for the last time, my stomach hurt for the last time. I have moved on.
That hurting gut feeling is among the most horrible feelings. You know that feeling when you realize you hear the key in the lock and know they are returning home; you sort of hold your breath as they walk in the door being unsure of what today’s troubles will bring you.
You however, can get to the point in your life in which you say, “You held me down for the last and final time.” I will and am moving on and I will continue to grow. There is a place deep-down inside where one gets the power, strength and also the know how to understand how to say, “I was lost for such a long time and now I’m found never to return beneath your power of pain and hurt.”
Don’t feel shame; that shame was handed to you by another person, let it go. Shame and pride is among the main downfalls of keeping someone within an unhealthy situation. No one ever wants others to see their pain or feel their shame. It’s a great day once the victim sees and understands it was never your fault, right from the start someone gave it to you.
If you believe in yourself you will get from under the pain, from the negativity, and allow yourself to move on. It’s an unfortunate day when you put so much energy into keeping your relationship together only for it to fail. However some relationships are extremely unhealthy that ones have to make a definite and wise course of action in order to save themselves and finally say, hey it wasn’t me all along; give that pain, embarrassment and abuse back to the abuser. It was never yours from the start.
Hold your head up high and don’t look back, always say and be aware of the pain they gave you wasn’t yours from the start. Give it back to the owner, wipe your tears and leave behind the negativity. Let the one that is causing this pain keep it and believe me they will keep it.
Take your life back, happiness is right around the corner for you if you will go ahead and take a chance and have confidence in yourself. Why should you… because you’re worth it.