As a human being, you are built up of a lot of facets such as – body, mind, spirit…thoughts, emotions…So it goes without saying that on every job you will have over the course of your life, you will bring all of your parts with you to work.
Your emotional parts, as much as the rest of you, are affected by everything in your day. Some things happen that aren’t even related to the job – like maybe a fight with your kids or your partner. Then, say, at work, you are criticized for something you did on the job. Add one and the other …blam!… it could create something of an emotional outburst.
You’ve seen others have them on the job. You have probably had your fair share as well.
So what do you do? Well, you might start to feel guilty or weird about it. You might think, darn it, now I have to backstroke to cover up the outburst.
Actually, consider giving yourself a break.
Chances are that if you leave it be, others will too. If you don’t make a big deal of it, usually other people won’t either. The exception may be if you feel you need to apologize to someone you may have ripped apart – someone who got the brunt of all the frustration. That would be a kind, and likely appreciated, gesture.
Most importantly, forgive yourself.
If, however, you find that it’s becoming a habit — losing your temper on the job, yelling at people, being emotional on the job, or maybe having a lot of fights at home (or whatever the sources may be), you may want to take a look at your situation and see what you could do to relieve the anxiety. You might consider talking to someone to gain a different perspective. There are also a lot of resources out there where you can obtain tools to deal with your stresses.
While emotions have their place on the job – like being excited about a job, enthusiastic about an assignment, curious about a problem, and so forth, going to extremes may be disruptive. If you have the opportunity, consider taking a time-out. If you feel your body tensing up or feel the frustration building up in your stomach, see if you can take a few minutes away to calm down. Take a walk, splash water on your face, breathe several times (slow and deep), or something else that works for you to help ease the stress.
And keep in mind that just as you bring your ‘self’ to work, so do your co-workers, supervisors, and everyone else. Basically, if you want people to respect the’ self’ you are bringing, be willing to do the same of them!