I know some girls who have been or are currently being bullied. This, to me, is SO disturbing.
Imagine planning what you are wearing to school EVERY weekday morning, just so that you will not get teased because your mom cannot afford to buy you expensive clothes. Imagine walking down a different hallway at your school just so that you will not run into that tall “mean girl” bully that harasses you about your weight at least 2-3 times a week. Imagine logging onto your Facebook account only to discover that some girl at your school has posted a comment teasing you about your “nerdy friends” under your latest status update about your upcoming birthday party/slumber party. These scenarios are happening every day in schools, in girls’ lives, across this country. As a result, the self-esteem of these same girls is SO low that they cannot even face themselves in their mirrors and repeat the words, “I love ME!” Wow!
Self-esteem is the core of our being. If we don’t even have that, we don’t have ourselves. If young girls are being reduced to so-called “losers” by other girls, of course, there comes a point when… Those words are internalized and digested, sometimes causing lifetime damage or life-threatening behaviors. We cannot allow our girls to be subjected to this kind of nonsense. So many of them have their whole lives ahead of them and are so incredibly talented, intelligent, creative, and beautiful.
It is time to band together in our communities and hold educators, clergy, community leaders, parents, and bullies accountable for the societal ill of bullying and its worsening effects on our youth, specifically our young girls. It is also time to embrace bullying victims and teach them survival skills/tactics, as well as ways to boost their self-esteem. Parents, it is not enough for your positive affirmations to be heard in your homes if your children hear the exact opposite for several hours during the week, when they are not in your presence. Please have a presence at the schools where your children attend. Do address problems immediately with your children’s teachers if situations arise. We cannot sit idly by anymore and let our youth destroy each other with words and actions. Years ago, we laughed off words, believing that “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” In this day and age, so many youth are killing themselves over words that taunt them daily. This cannot go on! Join me in the fight against “bullying” before it is TOO late, and we have lost more youth who had potential that they will never realize.
2010 © Vickie L. Hughes, J.D. (TBGC Founder/Executive Director)