Life can sometimes be cruel that lead to unexpected changes in our lives. These events may cause people to become wiser, stronger and better prepared for future events in their lives, such as death, divorce, burglary, job loss or an illness…etc. Sometimes such events may cause others to become jaded, cautious and withdrawn. How can we overcome bad experiences in order to also allow new love into our lives? Do we need to put our lives and happiness on hold ‘before’ we can move forward?
Everyone needs time in order to heal and begin to feel more comfortable in their own skin. Life is already filled with problems and plenty of drama. Some people handle things better than others, but can pushing people away cause more harm than good? Granted no one is perfect, but if perfection is what you strive for in life then you might end up alone.
People seem to find it easier to close the door and walk away from even the glimpse of happiness because they feel a date may lead to a good time, a good time may lead to more dates, which then lead to your toothbrush next to theirs, a personal drawer or some closet space for your belongings, then before you know it- you are in a new relationship. Hold the phone, it was just a date! Why can’t people build friendships before relationships? Why do people allow their thoughts to clutter their brains which then snowball into something that ‘might be’ but in reality never even started. That’s right people, ‘slow your roll’.
Whatever happened to enjoying life one day at a time? Different people bring us happiness for different reasons. Therefore, if someone makes you feel comfortable while sharing a beautiful dinner, a comedy show or Kilwin’s Chocolate Chip Cappuccino ice cream to kiss off each other’s lips, then just enjoy the moment (www.kilwins.com).
Now please stop making excuses as to why it would be better not to see each other, because it may lead to something. Keep in mind the keyword was ‘may’ lead to something…’things that make you go hmmm’. While you ponder that, just embrace the little moments in life and remember why sharing different things, events, venues, food, drinks are way better with someone rather than no one. Forest Gump said it perfectly, “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” So take a chance, open the box and indulge!