Infidelity flourishes during the summer months in the form of short- term affairs, better known as summer flings. See Summer is Peak Season for Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs and Experts Weigh in on Summer Infidelity.
Many men dabble at infidelity during the summer months because with summer social activities, weekend trips, and summer vacations, it’s easier hide a summer fling during the months of June, July and August. See Summer Flings and Summer Infidelity: 10 Things You Need to Know.
Certain men are more likely than others to engage in summer flings. See 3 Types of Men Who Have Summer Flings and Why You Should be Concerned.
Some of these men are faithful husbands and boyfriends all year long except for the summer months, when they purposely set things up to give themselves an opportunity to have one or more short-term summer flings. See Men are More Likely than Women to Have Summer Flings .
Most summer cheaters never get caught because of the tactics they employ. See Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know and How 3 Wives Accidentally Discovered Their Husband’s Summer Flings.
Below are the most common tactics used by cheating men use to hide their summer flings.
Sending the Wife (and Kids) Away
Some men who routinely cheat during the summer months have worked out surefire strategies to remove their wives or girlfriends from the scene to make it easier for them to engage in their summer flings.
There are husbands who routinely send their wife and kids to the shore, the lake, the mountains, the country, or to visit relativeswho live out of state.
Other cheating husbands or boyfriends treat their wives or girlfriends to a special trip they knows she can’t resist (a Caribbean cruise, a week at a world-class spa or fancy resort) to pave the way for their summer flings.
Not only have they cleverly and conveniently arranged to get their wives or girlfriends out of the way, they gets “extra points” for being generous and thoughtful mates.
Once his wife or girlfriend is safely out of the way, he’s free to have his summer fling.
The Separate Vacation Scheme
If your husband or boyfriend suddenly suggests that the two of you take separate vacations this year, when you’ve always vacationed together in the past, this could be a warning sign. See Separate Vacations Can Lead to Summer Infidelity and Summer Flings.
Especially if he’s a too insistent about getting away from you and the kids.
If he makes a big deal about “needing space” this summer so he can do his own thing, try to find out where it is that he wants to go, and what he wants to do. You may be able to call his bluff.
What is it that he wants to do that doesn’t include you? If he’s lobbying a little too hard for time alone, you might want to re-think your summer plans.
The separate vacation scheme is a common ploy used by summer cheaters to lay the groundwork for a summer fling. See Separate Vacations Can Lead to Summer Infidelity and Summer Flings.
Counterfeit Conventions and Bogus Business Trips
Business travel is often used to camouflage a cheating man’s summer fling.
If your husband or boyfriend travels frequently for business, he can easily invent a counterfeit convention or a bogus business trip.
But even a legitimate trip can provide a cover story for a cheating spouse or significant other who wants to have a short-term summer affair.
To avoid detection, all he has to do is tack on a few extra days before or after his business trip to allow for his summer fling. See Business Travel and Infidelity – How Cheating Men Use Business Travel to Hide Their Affairs.
Fake Fishing Trips and Other Outdoor Adventures
Cheating husbands and boyfriends will often disguise a weekend trip with his summer fling as a male-bonding, or men-only trip with other guys – like deep-sea fishing, rock-climbing, white-water rafting or a similar activity.
Most cheating men are aware that if they misrepresent a tryst with their mistress as being a guys-only rugged outdoor adventure, or extreme sports trip with no women allowed, their wives or girlfriends won’t ask to tag along.
It’s up to you to determine whether he’s really hiking the Appalachian Trail with his buddies, or sailing the seas with his summer fling. See How 3 Wives Accidentally Discovered Their Husband’s Summer Flings.
Not All Men Have Summer Flings
Not every man who travels, sends his family to the shore, or treats his girlfriend to a dream vacation is setting the stage for a summer affair.
But these are the tactics cheating husbands and cheating boyfriends commonly use to hide their summer flings.
To safeguard your marriage or relationship, and avoid being a victim of summer infidelity, familiarize yourself with the signs of a summer fling, and the precautions you can take. See Summer Flings and Summer Infidelity: 10 Things You Need to Know.
Send for a copy of the FREE Summer Infidelity Report by e-mailing [email protected] with the words “Summer Infidelity Report – Xm” in the subject line.
For more information about summer infidelity, visit www.NationalInfidelity.com to see the other articles in the Summer Infidelity Awareness Campaign, or see the list below.
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*** © copyright 2011 Ruth Houston / All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com, the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail [email protected]
For more informationabout summer infidelity,visit www.NationalInfidelity.com to see the other articles in the Summer Infidelity Awareness Campaign, or see the list below.
Summer Flings and Summer Infidelity: 10 Things You Need to Know
Separate Vacations Can Lead to Summer Infidelity and Summer Flings
How 3 Wives Accidentally Discovered Their Husband’s Summer Flings
3 Types of Men Who Have Summer Flings and Why You Should be Concerned
Men are More Likely than Women to Have Summer Flings
Summer is Peak Season for Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs
Experts Weigh in on Summer Infidelity
Summer Infidelity Tip Sheet
How Good men End up Cheating on Their Mates
Happy Husbands Cheat Too, and Even Good Marriages Are Susceptible to Infidelity
Will You Be the Next Woman to Get Cheated On?
Why Women Cheat vs Why Men Cheat- They Cheat for Different Reasons
Why Husbands Cheat
25 Reasons Why Men Cheat
Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know
Will He Leave You for Her?
5 Excuses Cheating Men Use to See Their Mistress, and How to Check Them Out
17 Subtle Signs That Your Marriage or Relationship is About to End
40 Fatal Signs That You’re about to Be Dumped
9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair
How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair
The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2011
Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? – 21 Ways You Can Tell (free infidelity report)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (softcover book – $29.95 – most signs apply to cheating women and cheating men)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information – $37)
FREE Infidelity Tip Sheets for Men and Women with Cheating Mates
Online Resources to Help You Catch or Monitor a Cheating Mate
For more practical infidelity advice, visit www.NationalInfidelity.com