Ed Daou provided everything a child could ask for in supporting his son Andrew, and on Wednesday, July 27th, Mr. Daou played a deadly role in his son’s death by fatally shooting him and then turning the gun on himself at their spacious home in Santa Clara County according to a story filed by San Jose Mercury Reporters Sean Webby and Mike Rosenberg.
It was an unsettling end; Andrew had everything going from him, a star basketball talent, an accomplished pianist, a straight “A” college student….all the attributes that would make any parent proud.
Mr Daou was a successful businessman and went over and beyond what the majority of parents would do for their child. Young Daou had the benefit of a private basketball trainer when he was only in the sixth grade. Senior Daou gave and expected the best.
Perhaps a little hint of an issue was disclosed by Andrew’s private basketball tutor, Steve Cotton.
“It didn’t always sit with him if his son failed,” said Cotton. Perhaps Ed Daou’s demand for such high achievement came at a high cost.
The specter of having a failed marriage forced Mr. Daou to face the possibility of not being successful at marriage was something that troubled him greatly. After expecting so much of his son, how could he deal with defeat at something?
Ed was eccentric, a label reserved for those affluent with peculiar personalities while his son Andrew had a sunny disposition.
Andrew graduated from highly regarded Valley Christian High School where he excelled at basketball. He used his father’s prompting and watchful eye to develop into a good division one basketball player where he was a walk-on to become one of the University of San Diego’s point guards.
Young Daou faced a huge personal adversity when he contracted Hodgkin’s lymphoma and conquered the illness through a regiment of chemotherapy. He had a relapse of the cancer which he over came the second time.
The elder Daou’s parenting style would not be considered very unusual a generation ago, but nowadays it’s rare that a parent would assume such a watchful role over a child. In spite of it all, Mr. Daou was Andrew’s biggest advocate, and it doesn’t fit that he would choose to take Andrew’s life after so much success.
Perhaps Ms. Daou or those familiar with the Daou’s marital status will be able to shed some light on what drove Mr. Daou to slay his son. The finality of the decision to end their lives at this time just doesn’t seem to fit.