There’s no more powerful tool that affects the human spirit, as the tongue. Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue”. As parents the things we say to our children have the power of life or death over their spirit. We hear people say things like, “Why can’t you be more…” or “Shut up!”. The point can be made more effectively with, “You’re unique, and I value who you are”, or “I’m talking right now, please be patient until I’m done”. We must SPEAK LIFE into our children and be careful of the things we say to, and about them in their hearing.
Ways to SPEAK LIFE:
1. Affirm their worth to the family, society, and most of all, the Lord. (Psalm 139:13-14) Remind them that they were created in the image of God, and share some of His traits, such as creativity, loving, intelligence, etc. Identify their personality traits, and say what you love about them. When introducing them, brag a little. “This is my son John. He’s really good at handing me the right tools for building my carpentry projects”.
2. Pray audibly for them before they leave in the morning. When you touch your child and thank God for her and pray for her protection, her dreams, her future, etc, she starts her day knowing she is loved, and valued. Praying the Scriptures is even more-so effective. (Numbers 6:23-26)
3. Teach them Scriptures. (Hebrews 4:12)The world is going to attack them (even when we do our BEST to prevent it), with messages like, “You’re not good enough because of your finances, history, race, education, etc”. If your child is armed with the Word in heart and mind, the Sword is ready to cut through the negativity so the Author of the Word of God can SPEAK LIFE into their spirit.
There are several churches in the Kansas City area to help you in this area, Macedonia Baptist Church, Paseo Baptist Church, are just a couple.