The world seems to be spinning faster and faster, accelerating as we go through life. Possibly the hardest thing to achieve in a relationship, and life for that matter, is balance and time allocation. Time, kids, careers, personal time, time with others close to you without your mate, bills, stress, quality time with your mate, caring for ailing relatives, the “negative noise” that’s all around us, household responsibilities and time with God are extremely difficult in this day and age to manage. The simpler we make our lives, the easier it is to make time for each other and prioritize. What people might need is a “priority and time management makeover” in their lives.
It doesn’t come as a surprise that we think we don’t have much time for those closest to us. It’s interesting how most people will make their partner the highest priority in the beginning of the relationship, but then all too often that wanes later on. In this life of never-ending responsibilities, busy schedules, selfish pursuits and juggling all the activities life has to offer, we rarely stop and think that we have chosen what to partake in outside of our responsibilities. Then again, we ought to take a close look at what is a true responsibility. It’s no wonder there are a lot of relationships struggling to thrive in this day and age.
Some people need to spend a little less time with the superfluous things, like what we do separate from each other, if too much time is spent doing it. How much is too much? What’s superfluous? Only you and your spouse can answer that. Get your spouse’s feedback and make some compromises. If we are passionate about our husband/wife and love them wholeheartedly, it shouldn’t be a chore to spend time with them, and both should realize the importance of spending quality time together. However, our definitions of quality time are all over the map. By doing this, we’ll continue to grow together, keep the passion alive and it will communicate love to your loved one. It will not only benefit our relationships, but will in turn benefit our kids and the rest of the world.
Everyone needs time away from each other as well. This is a balancing act – too much or too little can spell trouble if periods of either aren’t tended to.
Remember what is most important in life to God – our relationships with one another. There was a time that all we wanted was to spend time and be with our significant other. Do not lose that, or reminisce about how passionate we were about that person.