Raising children is never easy. There is no instruction manual or guide book that tells you the right answers. All you can do is take it day by day and listen to the person your child is becoming. In her memoir, An Accidental Mother, published by Unbridled Books, Katherine Anne Kindred talks about the joys of being a mother, and the heartbreak of having that taken away from her.
Kate Kindred was a career woman with an active social life. Dates, parties, work work work, Kate had the life she wanted. Yes, there had been marriages in the past, yes she’s lived with men and it hasn’t worked out, but Kate was still hopeful. Romance may not have been on the forefront of her mind, but she never ruled it out.
Then one day a man named Jim. He’s a caring, sensitive and kind man who has had his own marital problems in the past. The catch? He has two children. Michael, who is 3 ½ years old when Kate enters his life, and Elizabeth, who is only a year old and in the middle of a custody battle between Jim and his ex-wife.
Kate wasn’t planning on being a mother, especially not at this point in her life. However, the more she got to know Jim and Michael, the deeper she fell in love with them both. Soon, Kate was the one who Michael called out to when he had a bad dream, asked the questions that every four-year-old wants to know, and went to with his worldly toddler problems. Did Michael love his dad? Of course. But it was Kate that Michael developed a special bond with, seeing as how she was the one that raised him every day.
Then, when Kate and Jim realize that their relationship isn’t going to work out, Jim promises her that Michael, now 9 years old, will still be a part of her life. Gradually Kate realizes that this is a lie and she begins to understand why Elizabeth’s mother was fighting so hard for full custody.
Going from a single woman, to a mother, back to a single woman is a difficult and heartbreaking journey for Kate. The book is full of short anecdotes about raising Michael and Kate, drawings and handwritten notes from Michael, and a detailed account of Kate’s voyage into, and out of, motherhood. As her debut book, An Accidental Mother will make you ponder on your own family and things we take for granted.
You can preorder An Accidental Mother (which will be available in September) at the following Tulsa local book stores: Barnes and Noble.
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