When any individual in a relationship has insecurities, there is high potential the partnership will lead to destruction. Insecurities primarily derive from fear. This fear may have been caused by an unhealthy past relationship, not wanting to be alone, witnessing patterned poor partnership in family upbringing, or secrets an individual does not want to acknowledge with the partner. Maybe all of the above.
When insecurities are present, instead of dealing with them, an individual usually prefers to place poor forms of expectations on their partner. These expectations are used to avoid circumstances that would threaten the insecure person with his or her fear. This way, the person avoids discussing their insecurities and has their partner unknowingly compromised to something that is created from hidden emotions.
Insecurities in a relationship may lead to: breakdown in communication (transmit and/ or receptive), multiple forms of abuse (produce and/ or receptive), possible infidelity, a prolonged unhealthy relationship with recycling of negative issues, and cease of relationship with unhealthy emotional baggage on either party. If the relationship ends, the insecure person is more likely to blame the partner for its demise rather than acknowledging their own faults. It is important to take steps to identify ideations and behaviors of insecurity amongst both partners to maintain a positive partnership.