Help. I am 39. And have been for over a decade. Although I don’t have a shrine to Jack Benny, I’ve always admired his age philosophy: don’t ask, don’t tell. I’ve been single so long that flannel nightgowns occupy more space in my lingerie drawer than silky things from Victoria’s Secret.
It’s come to that. My pals say my “come hither look” now looks like: “What do you want?” Hey, so I’m a little cynical. I prefer to label it urbane. I’m about to jump into the cyber-dating world. I’m confused with choices of Internet dating sites. What do you suggest for a woman my age?
SF Dating Diva
Dear SF Dating Diva
Great question. Choosing the right Internet Dating Site is a topic near to my heart and wallet. As you do your due diligence -scouring the Top Five Sites – you may begin to feel a little like Goldilocks: one is too hard, one is too fast, and one is too slow. And, I guarantee you; one will feel right and age appropriate. The most important thing is to approach this foray into on line dating with a sense of humor and integrity. Both will serve you well.
Peace, love, groovey, Page
Here, in random order, are Page Larkin’s Top Five Internet Dating Sites:
Match.com – The Giant of Cyber dating. Probably the most acclaimed and most user friendly. Seek out deals and promotions. Thousands love this site- everyday.
JDate – The Jewish Dating site – is very dynamic and the site with the most aggressive marketing. Oy, so what if the algorithms are little pushy. It’s a fun, action-packed site – shiksas are allowed.
Plenty of Fish-The price is right: free. Claims they have over 145 million monthly visitors. What percentage are voyeurs or gawkers? You wonder if there are many players or are they serious daters? OkCupid is the other highly touted free site- worth a glance – definitely playing more to the 20-30’s than the 40-60 set.
Chemistry.com Tres cher at $49 per month. Look for the attractive ’14-day Free’ promotion. Chemistry is Match.com’s kissing cousin. Exactly like Match but, different.
E-Harmony- You’ve seen the romantic TV commercials. Who hasn’t? If you’re going to try this very conservative, slow paced site, be prepared to answer dozens and dozens of questions “in 29 dimensions.” Claims to have over 20 million registered online users. Seriously? Check out Promotions For a lark: take a lap around the Messages Boards where hundreds of singles hang around the virtual water cooler opining, whining, flirting and hoping for harmony and love.
Remember, as you explore, allow for time to really examine these sites, have fun. One or two sites will feel comfortable. I heartily encourage you to take the first step: Sign up. Find 3-5 flattering photos of yourself (ask a close friend for feedback in the selection) and start the process. Remember – honesty is the best policy as you answer the plethora of questions. Good luck and enjoy the ride. Anyone who has been 39 for a decade has to be fun! Let me know your favorite site.
Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Dylan Thomas
Going Stir crazy? Match.com in bed with Facebook?
Stir is a social dating application created for Facebook users as a “fun way to meet millions of singles in your area.” Stir was built by Match.com, the so-called leader in online dating, so (sit down for this one, Binkie) you can be ‘sure’ that your privacy will be protected. Right. Wanna buy a bridge? It’s worth a look.
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