List of Do’s and Don’ts for Online Dating:
1) Join a site that matches your needs. For example: Plenty o Fish – can be used for hookups, vs Match – which is for long term relationships.
2) Be honest in your profile. Take recent photos. Nothing over a year old should be submitted. Have a friend help you fill out the profile if you are not sure how to answer a question. Only by being honest can you find what you need and want.
3) Don’t be shy. Wink at people; send an email to get the ball rolling.
4) Don’t be a stalker. If someone does not reply back- no skin off your back – keep on submitting to numerous people – but keep the message brief and uplifting.
5) Reply back – if you find someone interesting reply back. Once you and the other person have exchanged two emails back and forth – it’s time to meet.
6) Don’t talk or go out on a date with someone just because they contacted you. On these sites even though you can be personally matched- everyone has viewing rights – so if someone who smokes contacts you and you don’t smoke and smoking is on your no list- don’t reply back. Not replying back isn’t seen as rude– it saves time.
7) Time to meet. After you have emailed back and forth a few (2-3) times, meet the person. There is no sense in talking for months at a time and then come to find out the person you meet isn’t a match for you. Meet right away. That way it’s not a letdown if it doesn’t work out and if it does your ready to start having fun!
8) If you meet one person, one time, it doesn’t mean you cancel your subscription. The point of dating is to meet as many people as you are interested in and see where they all pan out. Don’t cling right away– online dating should be looked at as casual meet and greet.
9) Meet in Person. Don’t Facebook friend them until after you meet in person. When you meet in person – both parties should drive or get to the destination separately. When you meet, think of this more like networking. Initial attraction may or may not be there. Be happy to meet another person, like when you ride on an airplane; make the most of the situation. You may not hit it off as star struck lovers but it’s still nice to meet a human being. Or you may fall for each other instantly- which is great.
10) What to Order. When you are first meeting it’s best to meet for a drink – whether that is coffee or beer it’s one drink. That way if the meeting is not a match, once one drink is finished, it’s a great excuse for the meeting to be over. If the one drink meeting is great you have something to look forward to next time or you can choose to stay longer.
11) Go Dutch. Neither party knows one another. Neither party is indebted to each other. This theme should/can carry out into more than the first meeting. If you both pay for a coffee on the first meeting and it doesn’t work out – you only bought a coffee for yourself – not too shabby. On the second meeting you are both trying to see if you enjoy meeting each other/ if you are interested in being friends. If you’re not sure if you are even friends yet – why should either party shell out two hundred dollars on an event? They shouldn’t. But you could both individually pay for your own ticket to Elitches, or a rock concert and simply go as new acquaintances – after all that’s what you are.
13) Hug vs Kiss. You just met this person, it’s more in line that you would hug upon meeting and hug when leaving. Even if you don’t feel the date went well but you think the person is nice – a hug is great. If the person greatly offended you, by all means just leave.
12) Say Thank You. If it didn’t work out, you don’t have to send them any message. If you didn’t enjoy the date and they did, simply text them, but only if they ask you out again or tell you it went well, for example: “it was nice to meet you, I just don’t think we are a good fit. Good luck to you, take care”. If you didn’t enjoy the date, delete the person’s number after a week of no communication. If you enjoyed meeting the person, let them know. The next day, call or send a text to let them know you enjoyed meeting them. You can follow it up with a sentence about how you would like to see them again sometime in the future.
13) Have fun! Live light! Enjoy the Experience!