You don’t have to.
Many people in the Phoenix area, live with an alcoholic. As a result, countless people are allowing this abusive person to continue to abuse them and themselves. This leads to a vicious cycle of abuse that is hard to break. It can, however, be broken.
Alcohol addicts need to be woken up because the biggest lie they tell is to themselves, “I don’t have a problem.” As much as you love the alcoholic in your family, that lie is what makes it easy to lie to you.
Some alcoholics will even tell you that they have a problem and even beg you for help. All you can do is protect yourself, get help and hope they see their problem and get help for themselves. They can be given literature, alcohol abuse help lines and locations of AA meetings but until they are ready to deal with their disease. They will NOT do anything to you or themselves but be abusive.
Alcoholism is a sickness. It is a sickness that affects not only the alcoholic themselves but also all of the people surrounding them . It truly is a disease that affects the family, friends and co-workers surrounding that person. Like any other sickness or disease, they must get the proper support, encouragement and antidote from people and organizations qualified to help them. Loved ones can only help point them in the right direction, support them through treatment and offer love and support after they have gotten help.
No one deserves to be an alcoholic or to tolerate having an alcoholic in their life. NO ONE!
When faced with the decision to stay with an alcoholic and help them or move on and leave the situation, there is only one answer that is healthy for you.
If in need of help, there are many resources available to you. A national number is 211. You can call 211 for help out of the situation. They will guide you through leaving and also help find food, housing, employment, health care, counseling and more if needed. Some additional resources and websites for information and support are listed below.
Just remember, if trying to decide whether to leave an alcoholic. It may not be an easy decision but it will be a decision that will set the course for the rest of your life. A decision that will set you free. Free of abuse. Free of pain. Free of a vicious cycle. And it will become a decision that will allow you to respect yourself and others around you. You have nothing to feel guilty about. You do not have to live in an abusive situation. You can empower yourself to break the cycle of abuse. Help is out there. You can break free!!!