Most singles have at one time or another, have been out and about watching all the couples around them and thought to themselves; why can’t I find someone or I hate being single. Truth be told the tides will turn eventually, for better or for worse, which is why it is so important to put a skip in your step through whatever your current situation maybe because it’s bound to change.
In the tampa bay area being single can become an adventure rather than a daunting task. Between the beaches, art galleries, museums, coffee shops and of course the nightlife its practically impossible to not get out there and find some enjoyment. I know, I know, you need someone to do these things with you but if you wait for someone else you may lose out on the opportunity all together. There are many great things about being single or as I like to call it many joys to be found in singleland.
Do What YOU Want, When YOU Want… think of the possibilities?! Being single means dancing while putting away the dishes, choosing to go out all night rather than doing laundry, eating a bowl of cereal for dinner rather than cooking or eating straight out of the pan to save on clean up and flirting with every “single” you come in contact with, all because you can. There is no one you have to answer to, no feelings to hurt, no judgement to face or anyone to try to fit you into the mold of what they think you should be. Embrace the ability to do what you want, when you want, if people are looking it’s likely out of envy.
Spoil yourself… who better than you for this task and in being single why wouldn’t you spoil yourself. Get that massage, order the new workout equipment, take a long weekend to go somewhere you’ve always wanted to go, buy yourself flowers or just take a relaxing bath. Spoil yourself now because what awaits right around the corner may remove the opportunity.
Work through the kinks… whether that means working through the issues and questions from your childhood or last relationship with a therapist, completing a home project or making a point to work out more. Who would you like to be and what kinks do you have to work through to get there? Working through the kinks helps to get you focusing on you, what’s important to you and is a stepping stone toward the person you envision yourself being. The joy in this comes when you are thrilled with the person you have become.
Meet People… Being single means you can make friends with whoever you choose. Don’t be afraid to diversify, have friends of the opposite sex. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you have to date everyone of the opposite sex many men and women may not be what you want in a mate but just what you prefer in a friend, besides many friendships outlast romantic relationships and can be more satisfying. Don’t rule out couples as friends, you may find that two friends are more fun than just one.
The time will come when your responsibilities and circumstances will shift, so seize the day and enjoy it. If its a bad day smile because tomorrow will be better and if its a good day relish it and dance because tomorrow will be different. Don’t whine about being single, embrace it! There is such opportunity in the circumstance of singlehood to redefine and enjoy yourself and the adventure of dating.