On a recent episode of VH1’s Basketball Wives Chad “Ochocinco” and Evelyn (Lozando) had an argument because he went on a lunch date with a (girl)friend from his past without telling her. It was (probably) perfectly harmless and not that big of a deal at all, but it was a big deal to Evelyn because he hid it from her. She just happened to pass by his favorite restaurant (where he eats all the time) on her way home and saw him eating with one of his old flames. Of course she did the respectable thing and drove home (fuming) instead of running into the restaurant and showing her colors.
Evelyn and Chad are engaged so being out with other people of the opposite sex is not a good look. Specifically as celebrities, everyone’s watching for someone to slip up and to report/spread rumors about infidelity. But even with regular, non-celebrity couples, people can be all in your business just waiting for things to fall apart. If you communicate with your significant other then they will be better equipped with the 100% truth when people come at them with he said, she said.
Evelyn completely blew up on Chad and really blew the whole thing out of proportion. But on the other hand she kind of had a point. In this day and age all it takes is a simple text to say “Meeting up for lunch with a female friend, just thought you ought to know.” or a phone call asking “Hey would it bother you if I grabbed a bite with an old female friend?”. And maybe send a pic so we can gauge weather or not they’re a threat! But seriously, communication is key in any stable relationship. You can go back and forth on whether or not omission equals lying, but at the end of the day if you have to hide it then it makes it seem like there is something to hide.
Someone very smart said communication, cooperation, and consideration are essential to relationships, romantic and otherwise. So remember to communicate what’s going on, how you feel; cooperate with your partner to have an effective relationship; and consider how what you’re doing would make them feel and how it would make you feel if things were reversed.
Rules of thumb for lunch dates
- Don’t go out with exes without letting your partner know
- Do everything in the daylight, in public
- Always split the bill
- Church hugs only!
- Be open and honest