This s one of the Co-founders of Atlanta Polyamory Inc.; he serves on the board of directors and is a staff member of Atlanta Poly Weekend. I asked him these questions and this is what he said.
How is it you found Polyamory?
I have never been a one partner person. But as for the modern “Polyamory”, well it just happened. My brother went through a nasty divorce. His wife would not believe him that he wasn’t cheating on her. (He wasn’t there wasn’t anyone else). My wife asked me that if there was ever anyone who I would like to be with besides her that I ask her. Be open and honest. We talked about it and opened our marriage. It has evolved from there into Polyamory. Another form of Responsible NON Monogamy.
Did your first relationship work out the way you planned?
Um NO. It was very painful. But we discussed it and learned what the warning signs were and moved on. The next time we are faced with that kind of situation we will be better prepared to face it and deal with the emotions that come from it.
Why did you stick with it?
Even though it was hard, it felt right. For once I was no longer limited on loving one person as much as they would have me. Even if I had more to give. I was even less scared of rejection from a potential date.
What is your current relationship status and how many partners do you currently have?
Currently I am married, have 2 full time partners and a coffee date partner. I know that sounds funny but it is an emotional relationship in my eyes. I look forward to seeing this person and sharing the 15-45 minutes with them as we have coffee and share conversation about our week. You don’t have to be sleeping with someone in my eyes to have a strong emotional relationship with them.
In your opinion what is the number one stigma that Polyamory has against it?
That Polyamory is an excuse to be promiscuous. That polyamory is a phase and is only practiced so that you can sleep around. And that Polyamory is the same as swinging. While they both are forms of responsible non monogamy they are two separate cultures. There is some overlap. As there is with any two things in the world.
What is the Number one thing Polyamory has going for it?
Polyamory is on the verge of becoming a huge movement in the world. What it has are educated individuals and organizations working together to present Polyamory as a positive relationship choice.
How big is your local community and how long has it taken to get that large?
Currently we have 275 members. For our group Atlanta Polyamory it has taken about 2 years to get that big. We just formed a 501 c-7 nonprofit to host the group and raise funds for education and networking for polyamorous persons. We have a conference in March of every year. That brings people from all over the world.
How many events do you have a month?
We currently have between 5 and 10 events a month but that number will be going up next year as we have a lot of things planned for our group.
If someone wanted to find out more about the group who do they contact?
They can send us an email at [email protected] find us on the web at www.atlantapolyamory.org or www.atlantapolyweekend.com also we are on Facebook-Atlanta Polyamory, Twitter @Atlpoly, Fetlife- Atlanta Polyamory Please feel free to contact us with any questions and or comments you may have for our group. Media is encouraged to contact us for interviews and information.