Let’s say that you have been seeing this guy for three months now and you believe you have fallen in love with him but neither of you has talked about love yet. Of course, you have mentioned certain words and have said a few things, such as: enjoy, care, love doing things with you, etc … However, the L word was not directly used yet so do you wait for him because you are scared of not hearing it back if you say it first? Do you go fishing for the L word? Do you just take the risk?
What a girl to do? Ok, this is 2012 and “girls” don’t have to wait anymore or do they? Is it still the guy who should say it first? Is it because they are the ones known for their fear of commitment, therefore we feel that if they say it first, they have conquered that fear and we have a better chance?
Shoud we care who says it first? Or should we just honor our feelings and go for it? Naturally, it is helpful and logical to have an idea of where your partner is as far as his feelings towards you, however it can be hard if he is a quiet guy, for example.
So in case you say it first, are you prepared to not hear the L word back? If that happens, do you ask him to talk about it with you or you just ignore the whole thing and hope that he did not hear you say it?
I believe that if you feel that he is into you, you should just go for it or create situations where that word may come into play. You can also wait for those “romantic” moments and say it and see what you get back, right? You can always blame passion!
I know in the past, men were the ones who first told their women that they loved them but those were the times that women had to wait for almost everything to be done and happen in their lives …
Anyway, I think it is okay to tell him first if you have the feeling that you are both on the same page.