There are a lot of opinions as too why some people date interracially. Are these opinions valid? Do they really matter?
As long as we live in this world, someone will always have an opinion about what we are doing, what we are wearing, what we worship, what we like to listen too, what we eat, how much money we make (or don’t make); so should it really matter what people think about who we date?
With that being said; with all judgment aside, why do you think that it is that you date interracially? This question is more of a self-reflection than a direct one to the reader of this article. But if you chose to share, by all means share. Discussion is always needed and welcomed.
I will attempt to answer my own question now.
I date interracially because race has never been an issue for me. I admit there is strong attractions to people that are physically different from me. I love diversity and contrast I suppose. More than physical attractions, I chose mates that have similar interest to me. It is very important for me to share myself with someone who “gets” me. My interests make up a large portion of who I am, and they are very diverse and surprising to most once they get to know me. I’ve never been one of those people that you can just tuck away into a box and slap a particular sticker on it that “classifies” me as a certain “type.” For people that have done that to this girl have gravely “misclassified” me.
Living in a small town in the South is not the best place to meet people with me same interest, especially when you are open to dating outside of your own race. Interracial dating does exist here, but it is not common; especially black women and white men. Can you see the dating pool shrinking?
Are there any solutions? I don’t know. The only light at the end of the tunnel for persons like me is in the next generation. My daughter and her group of friends are so wonderfully diverse. She’s dating black, white, Puerto Rican, Asian. Does this mean that she hadn’t encountered “limited” thinking? No, she has, but that thinking wasn’t the majority. I my generation it is.
My only suggestion to you reader is to love who you want to love. Race aside; hold out for that person that will “fight” for you after the honeymoon period has ended. That person that thinks you are “worth it!” Place your heart with the one that doesn’t expect perfection and unrealistic expectations of you. Select a partner who is strong and confident in whom they are. Most of all chose a partner who “loves” themselves first. No one can love you if they do not love themselves. Color and race have nothing to do with this, but if you meet someone who fits the bill; don’t toss them aside because they might be wrapped in a lighter or darker package.