When one spouse travels for work, it can make it difficult to stay connected. Jobs that require a spouse to be away from home for days even weeks at a time puts stress on the marital relationship. Spouses need to work extra hard to maintain their emotional connection.
Even if only one spouse travels, it places added pressure on both of them. For the spouse that’s on the road, it’s living out of suitcases and hotels. They worry about what’s going on at home. If they are driving it adds up to long stretches stuck in a car alone. For the spouse left at home, it’s having to deal with the kids, animals, schedules, house and jobs by themselves. It’s also worrying about their spouse making it home safely.
So how do spouses stay connected?
- Talk as often as you can. Even if it’s just a few minutes to say hi and I love you, your spouse will cherish those moments.
- Keep up with each other on social networking sites such as Facebook. A quick “I’m thinking about you” posted on their wall can go a long way in lifting your spouse’s spirits.
- Utilize Twitter and email. The goal is to stay connected. Anything you can do to let your spouse know they are missed and loved is important.
- Set aside a few minutes every night to talk and share your day with each other. It will help you both feel less alone.
- Don’t let your spouse leave while you’re angry with each other. Put those feelings away, no little argument is worth letting your spouse walk out the door at a low point. You never know what can happen.
- Spend time together when your spouse returns. All the drama and negative things can wait until you’ve had a chance to reconnect.
The emotional connection between spouses is the most vital component in a successful marriage. Learning to maintain that connection is a skill you will benefit from for years to come. Having a spouse that travels requires a little extra attention. However, finding ways to stay connected when your spouse travels out of town will make the trips a bit more bearable.
If your marriage is struggling and marriage counseling is something you feel would help you and your spouse, try the Austin Family Institute. “Austin Family Institute, a marriage and family training program, provides all counseling on a sliding scale fee, making it affordable for everyone.” Visit their website or contact them at 512-329-6611. Kelly Cozzone is not a licensed therapist. The opinions and observations expressed are not intended to replace the advice of a trained professional.
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