Too often people feel obligated to answer calls, respond to texts, and go out with someone just to avoid hurting their feelings. But in the long run, you just end up making things worse. Though this is not explicitly leading someone on, entertaining their feelings for you is a form of leading someone on. You are playing games with them. If you know they are not “The One” for you (whatever that means) then why would you keep communicating with them in a romantic manner???
Most people who do this do so because someone once broke their heart really badly and they don’t want to make another person feel that bad. But dragging out a break up will only make things worse. It’s best to go ahead and end things if that’s what you really want to do.
The key is to be an adult about it. For some reason, we all tend to act like big babies when it comes time to end a relationship. But being honest with the other person is the best thing you can do for them.
Be sure to have this conversation in person. This is not the time to use social media or send a text. Face to face is tough. It’s intimidating. You have to actually see their reaction to your difficult news. Of course it would be much easier to send this hurtful message from afar, but that is the wrong thing to do. It’s just not fair. You owe it to them to sit down and do it in person.
As uncomfortable as it may be, you’ve got to just put on your big boy or big girl britches and end it.
Top 10 ways NOT to break up with someone
- On a Post-It note
- On Skype
- With a mouthful of cliche`s
- Right before a major holiday (to avoid getting a gift)
- Via text message
- On Facebook or Twitter
- Through a friend
- Via email
- Have your mom do it for you
- On or near their birthday (see #4)