Getting to know people can be hard for some, for others it is very easy. Some are just more comfortable with themselves. For example, dating multiple people, having some place different to go every night with a different person. While continually having first dates may be a drag for some, it may be fun for others. Some people enjoy the thrill of the chase, some enjoy meeting new people, some actually want to find someone to have a fulfilling relationship and some are just interested in sex, no matter what your preference is, have you ever asked yourself, how many is too many?
Meeting people can be wonderful. It is an excellent opportunity to make new friends, learn about each other and explore new possibilities. There are times when you can become acquainted with several people at once, such as a dating website or speed dating events, a few seem promising so you take a chance and meet them for dinner (individually of course), drinks etc. The nice thing about having a meeting with someone is you are getting to know him or her, hopefully to see which person is right for you as a potential partner.
Some forget that dating is simply a tool for a person to find out exactly whom they are dealing with, consider it an interview with dinner included. The purpose is to ask questions to learn about one another. Some people ask basic things like, what kinds of movies do you like or what your favorite color is. Some of these questions may be relevant. It seems people are having sex before they can even get to the important questions like, what your health status is or when was your last relationship. So why is it bad when you choose to date multiple people?
It sounds so simple but when you think about it, people do not do this too much anymore. Yes, you are still dating; yes, you are asking questions, are you asking the right questions? If so, try not to interrogate the person as if he/she is on trial. In the midst of this entire process, are you actually getting to know the person? Are you getting side tracked and jumping into bed right away just to find out later that you do not really know the person that you are dating or even like the person for that matter?
Learning about people could be a great thing, going places with them, sharing secrets and maybe even stealing a kiss or two. You have different reasons for dating, if you are going to date multiple people, it would be wise to give yourself and the other person a fair chance by getting to know that person, put sex on the back burner for a while; you may make a real connection. Having sex with multiple people could cause complications that may cloud your judgment, you may have great sex with someone; does that mean that he/she is the one for you?
Doing this could force you to lose the one you really want because you have allowed sex to provide you with temporary comfort and/or may bring unwanted drama between yourself and the others that you have involved. In the midst of all of this, you have not established a true connection, only a physical one. Some couples have met, had sex on a first date and are still very committed to each other. There are some exceptions but few. Great sex is one thing; having a great relationship combined with great sex is another. Take the time to step back and balance things between your heart, your head and any lusty feelings that you may have. Think things through and make good and healthy choices for yourselves. When you take your time, you avoid things like unwanted pregnancies, fights and discovering that you really do not like the person you are dating. There is laundry list of things that could go wrong. One bad choice can determine the outcome of your life and relationships. Date smart and have fun.