The internet is abuzz with the news of how the season’s premiere of LA Ink, featured Kat von D getting Jesse James’s face tattooed on her rib cage.
What was meant to be an act of love, set in motion a very unfortunate series of events culminating in Kat and Jesse breaking off their engagement, calling off their wedding, and officially ending their highly publicized romance.
But the burning question is WHY?
A look behind the scenes shows that there’s a lot more to Kat’s tattoo and her break up with Jesse than meets the eye.
Kat’s tattoo of Jesse was the turning point that led to the end of their romance.
Continue reading to find out how and why.
PHOTOS: 20 Pictures of Kat von D and Jesse James Before the Split
An Unwanted Reminder of Jesse’s Troubles Childhood
Jesse James had a troubled childhood. He claims to have been the victim of childhood abuse.
Kat chose to get a picture of Jesse James as he looked in 5th grade.
You may recall, that in Jesse’s televised apology to Sandra Bullock on ABC’s Nightline, he spoke of having had a rough childhood, and being an abused child at the hands of his dad. See Will Jesse James’ Nightline Interview Convince Sandra Bullock to Take Him Back?
A dispute later occurred between Jesse, his father, his sister and his stepmother as to whether or not this was really true.
However, whatever occurred during that period in Jesse’s life, he was so overcome with emotion while reliving his childhood experiences that he broke down in tears and had to excuse himself from the interview, and leave the set.
Kat’s tattoo of Jesse in his childhood years may have triggered painful memories of a time in Jesse’s life that he probably rather forget.
If Jesse’s story was true, why would he want his fiancée, and future life mate to be tattooed with a permanent reminder of his unpleasant past?
Even if Jesse’s story wasn’t true, why would he want to be constantly reminded of the lie he told on TV?
Either way, getting a picture of Jesse James when he was a child was not a good idea.
It was clear from Jesse’s facial expression when Kat showed him the tattoo, that he wasn’t all that pleased.
If Kat really wanted a tattoo of Jesse’s face, she would have been better off choosing an image of Jesse James the way he looks now.
Although that might have still produced the same end result. Here’s why.
Kat’s Tattoo Made Jesse Feel Trapped
Seeing and hearing how much the tattoo meant to Kat von D, suddenly made Jesse James feel trapped. If the cameras hadn’t been rolling, there’s no telling what he might have said or done.
It was evident that Jesse was totally taken aback, and was not all that thrilled about Kat’s tattoo.
The expression on his face said it all.
At one point, Kat seems to have subconsciously picked on Jesse’s true feelings when she said “I thought you were going to tell me you were breaking up with me,” later adding that she was just kidding.
When Kat asked Jesse, “Do you love it?,” he hugged her, kissed her, called her crazy, and said,” I love YOU,” – making it clear he loved Kat, but NOT the tattoo.
It was obvious that the tattoo meant a lot less to Jesse than it meant to Kat.
Having Jesse sit beside her, holding her hand while the tattoo was being finalized, was another bad move on Kat von D’s part.
Jesse dutifully sat there, awkwardly holding Kat’s hand, but he had the look of a trapped animal trying to figure out how to escape.
In Jesse’s interviews to promote his new tell-all book, American Outlaw, he said he felt trapped in his marriage to Sandra Bullock, and that’s why he cheated on her. See Kat von D Embarrassed Because Jesse James Cheated on Her Too.
Jesse further stated that infidelity gave him a sense of freedom, and he felt cheating was one of the few things he could do to assert his independence over his life.
It’s very telling that Kat and Jesse had a heated argument over another woman, the day before they broke up. See Kat Von D Fights with Jesse James Over Suspected Infidelity Hours Before Split
To make matters worse, Kat commented in her narrative, “When we’re old and wrinkly, we’ll be able to look at it!”
In Jesse’s mind that was probably the last straw.
Jesse James is 42. Kat von D is 29. With a 13-year age difference between them, getting “old and wrinkly” was not something Jesse wanted to think about.
PHOTOS: The Many Faces of Kat von D- 25 pictures of Kat von D
Kat von D’s Relationship with Jesse Was Doomed from the Start
Kat’s break-up with Jesse James was probably inevitable, since Jesse has shown himself to be incapable of handling unconditional love. See The REAL Reasons Why Jesse James and Kat von D Finally Split Up
In discussing his marriage unfaithfulness to Sandra Bullock, Jesse said he never really believed that Sandra Bullock truly loved him. Jesse said he never felt he was good enough for her, and always felt unworthy of Sandra’s love.
Jesse claims this was a contributing factor to his multiple affairs, which started 2 years after he and Sandra Bullock were wed. See Jesse James Still Trashing Sandra Bullock for His Tell-All Book.
Jesse is clearly a man who’s not comfortable with unconditional love – an issue he should have dealt with when he was in rehab for sex addiction and childhood abuse. See Could Your Cheating Husband or Boyfriend be a Sex Addict like Tiger Woods or Jesse James?
Given Jesse’s track record, Kat von D should have paid close attention to everything Jesse James said, and made a special effort to read between the lines. See Kat von D Embarrassed Because Jesse James Cheated on Her Too.
Kat should also have listened to all the warnings she received. See Kat von D Gets Warnings from Jesse James’ Mistress and His Ex-Wife.
If a person is pretending to be something or someone they’re not, time will always tell. A person can only keep up a pretense for so long.
It’s wise to also pay close attention to a person’s behavior – after all, actions speak louder than words. See Could You Be Duped into Dating a Married Man Like Jesse James Duped Michelle Bombshell McGee?
It’s also good to remember that no matter how much love you lavish on a leopard, there’s nothing you can do to change his spots.
For more articles about Jesse James and Kat von D, see the list below, or visit www.CelebrityInfidelity.com.
*** © copyright 2011 Ruth Houston / All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com, the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more articles about Jesse James and Kat von D see the list below, or visit www.CelebrityInfidelity.com.
Kat von D Embarrassed Because Jesse James Cheated on Her Too
Kat Von D Fights with Jesse James Over Suspected Infidelity Hours Before Split
Glamour Shots of Kat von D– 19 pictures of Kat von D
The Many Faces of Kat von D- 25 pictures of Kat von D
The REAL Reasons Why Jesse James and Kat von D Finally Split Up
20 Pictures of Kat von D and Jesse James Before the Split
Jesse James and Kat von D Plan to Marry on the Anniversary of their First Date
Kat von D Gets Warnings from Jesse James’ Mistress and His Ex-Wife
Bombshell McGee May be Right about Jesse James and Kat von D
Jesse James Still Trashing Sandra Bullock for His Tell-All Book
Jesse James to Further Embarrass Sandra Bullock by Writing a Tell-All Book + slideshow
Open Season for Tell-All Celebrity Infidelity Books
Kat Von D and Jesse James Still Together – Are They Engaged? – The Inside Scoop
Kat von D – pictures
Jesse James and Kat von D engaged– photos
Jesse James with Sandra Bullock and with Kat von D– pictures
UPDATE: Jesse James – Kat von D engagement, wedding plans, Sandra Bullock, more
10 Things about Kat von D, Jesse Jame’s Fiance
Jesse James and Kat von D Tweet their Love for Each Other on Twitter
Has Jesse James Replaced Sandra Bullock with Kat Von D?