As I drive around Wichita Falls I see dozens of self help opportunities on almost every block. From AA meeting, NA meetings or faith based meetings like Celebrate Recovery, to private bible study groups in multiple homes or held in a church. I know my church, Heritage Church, as several groups and classes anyone can get involved in. First Baptist, Fallspointe church on Kemp blvd, Fountain of Living Water on Seymour Hwy and many others also have great ministries for people.
I think the common denominator for people who seek these groups and meeting or for even those seeking professional help is five basic needs. Of course these needs are not limited to just those people. Psychologist Abraham Maslow first introduced his concept of a hierarchy of needs in his 1943 paper “A Theory of Human Motivation” and his subsequent book, Motivation and Personality.
This hierarchy suggests that people are motivated to fulfill basic needs before moving on to other needs. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is most often displayed as a pyramid. The lowest levels of the pyramid are made up of the most basic needs, while the more complex needs are located at the top of the pyramid.
Needs at the bottom of the pyramid are basic physical requirements including the need for food, water, sleep and warmth. Once these lower-level needs have been met, people can move on to the next level of needs, which are for safety and security. As people progress up the pyramid, needs become increasingly psychological and social.
Soon, the need for love, friendship and intimacy become important. Further up the pyramid, the need for personal esteem and feelings of accomplishment take priority. Like Carl Rogers, Maslow emphasized the importance of self-actualization, which is a process of growing and developing as a person to achieve individual potential.
Types of Needs: Maslow believed that these needs are similar to instincts and play a major role in motivating behavior. Physiological, security, social, and esteem needs are deficiency needs (also known as D-needs), meaning that these needs arise due to deprivation. Satisfying these lower-level needs is important in order to avoid unpleasant feelings or consequences.
Maslow termed the highest-level of the pyramid as growth needs (also known as being needs or B-needs). Growth needs do not stem from a lack of something, but rather from a desire to grow as a person. Five Levels of the Hierarchy of Needs;there are five different levels in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.
Physiological Needs: These include the most basic needs that are vital to survival, such as the need for water, air, food and sleep. Maslow believed that these needs are the most basic and instinctive needs in the hierarchy because all needs become secondary until these physiological needs are met.
Security Needs: These include needs for safety and security. Security needs are important for survival, but they are not as demanding as the physiological needs. Examples of security needs include a desire for steady employment, health insurance, safe neighborhoods and shelter from the environment.
Social Needs these include needs for belonging, love and affection. Maslow considered these needs to be less basic than physiological and security needs. Relationships such as friendships, romantic attachments and families help fulfill this need for companionship and acceptance can include involvement in social, community or religious groups.
Esteem Needs: After the first three needs have been satisfied, esteem needs becomes increasingly important. These include the need for things that reflect on self-esteem, personal worth, social recognition and accomplishment.
Self-actualizing Needs: This is the highest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Self-actualizing people are self-aware, concerned with personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others and interested in fulfilling their potential.
I do feel that if there is any underline issues in any of these areas it can alter attitudes or beliefs toward life and your relationships are influenced. If you are mostly healthy in these areas then your approach to your marriage is healthier and vice versa. One more thing, the issues with these areas can be connected to childhood.