Experts agree that your date will form opinions of you in the first few minutes of a date. Therefore, first appearances do matter. Guys, that’s why you need to make an impression that will dazzle her. It doesn’t matter whether you take her to a fancy restaurant in San Francisco or a relaxing picnic in the Oakland hills. What does matter is that you avoid making these same mistakes some other guys made:
“He couldn’t carry a conversation”
Focus on making your date feel comfortable. Smile when she shows up, prepare a few questions, and really listen when she’s talking. Just don’t pry and ask anything that will make her squirm. Instead, ask about her interests, passions, and dreams.
“He made no effort with his appearance”
Men and women both judge books by its covers, especially on the first date. Dress accordingly. For example, if you’re meeting her at a fancy restaurant, hiking sandals, bleached jeans, and a sleeveless shirt will not do. If you have any question about the attire, call her before the date to make sure you guys are on the same page.
“He brought up an ex”
To make a good first impression, take out the word “ex” from your vocabulary. It will likely create an awkward moment and there’s just no good way to bring it up. If you tell her you’re still close to your ex, she’ll assume that you haven’t really moved on. If you say bad things and complain about your ex, she’ll think you have some unresolved issues that you need to talk about with friends and maybe even a therapist. It’s a lose-lose situation that should be avoided at all costs.
“He was late and kept me waiting in a crowded restaurant”
Guys, guess what? Girls don’t like waiting for men, especially one they don’t know. It’s embarrassing and can definitely ruin the night. Show up when you say you will– earlier is even better. If you’re running behind, call her and let her know immediately. This demonstrates respect. Also, don’t rush through the door full of excuses– traffic jam, horrible boss, sick dog.
“He couldn’t let go of his phone”
Keep your technology hidden during a date. If you’re constantly checking your email or thumbing through your contacts, she’ll get the feeling you’re not interested in her at all. If you’re waiting for an important call, let her know beforehand and take care of it as soon as possible. Otherwise, she’ll get up early, leaving you to wonder why.