This article’s title may seem pretty harsh, but the situation is a reality, at least based on a recent poll reported on by Today Health. Out of 70,000 individuals polled by askmen.com, almost 50% of men said they would dump their partner if she gained weight versus the only 20% of women who would get rid of their plumper man. The online polls, one answered by men and the other answered by women, delve into subjects such as the importance of family and the likelihood of lying about past sexual partners, but the results of this one question bothered me most.
Sure, I have addressed how to compliment a woman’s figure without offending her and even touched upon the dreaded topic of how to tell your partner to lose weight, but the idea of completely ending a relationship due to a woman’s increasing waist is more than shallow; it’s just plain ignorant. Your partner should love you for who you are inside and out. Physically, our bodies change as we grow older, and as a certified personal trainer, I can attest to how hard it is to work against these elements. Skin will sag, wrinkles will appear, and that six-pack might fade, but who we essentially are, those character traits that cannot be seen, does not change.
I recently saw a woman on TV who went from a size 2 to a size 18 after suffering a brain aneurism and being placed on medications that severely impacted her weight. The man she knew as a petite sample size still asked her to marry him even after the weight gain because she was still the same person–he loves her for who she truly is. Our physical bodies, while defining our physical space and self, does nothing to indicate our true essence. Larger individuals can be sweet and kind or rude and miserable just like slimmer people. At the end of the day, would you rather have a woman with a few extra pounds who is bright, bubbly and makes you smile and feel special or a perfect-bodied model who is caustic, narcissistic, and makes you feel insecure? Hey, it’s your choice. Just remember, you get what you choose!
For the surveys’ full results, check out the ladies’ results and the men’s results at askmen.com.
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