What is going on with our generation today? More and more adults are single because they really want to remain that way. Singles do not want the hassle of complicated relationships. Most people have been in a long term relationship or are divorced. They feel that life is better if they do not become ‘hitched’ again. Singles have become comfortable with their personal achievements especially if they had a bad break up or divorce. Others do not want to share their personal space with a significant person, because they love their freedom too much to have to deal with a partner always asking for explanations or setting curfews.
So what happens when people find themselves living alone, sharing activities with friends and need to satisfy their sexual desires? Of course, they keep things simple and ask a friend that they feel meets their criteria and can ‘deliver’ rain or shine, but with ‘no strings attached’. This agreement is straight forward sex with no commitment, no questions asked and the ‘friend’ might not spend the night after the job is complete. Where has the romance gone?
Have bad relationships ruined people? What happened to giving other people a fair chance? So is this the answer for a sexual cure? Do men really respect women who agree to such an emotionless act of crude, raw, uninhibited sex? Well, some may enjoy the adventure or the fantasy of it in the beginning, but someone always gets hurts. There are also women who prefer the agreement of ‘friends with benefits’ (aka booty call), but how far can it go? What friend will allow the friendship to continue once the sex ends or gets to be too much? How do you face each other or meet the new person in their lives without having any feelings attached?
Most people agree that if you are going allow this trend to take place in your life, then the rules of the game must be clear and concise ‘before’ playing. Some common rules are to make sure it is not a person you see often, for example at the gym, your workplace and definitely not your neighbor. Other general rules might be not to allow any ‘cuddle time’ and to never discuss personal issues in order not to become personally involved. Some say you must both be single, but practice safe sex and others say your relationship status should not matter because there should be no emotional involvement. We all know not everyone follows the rules. How can this be a fair game?
There are movies that pretty much end with the couple falling in love or walking away from the relationship because it became too real and painful to move forward. Two recent movies are No Strings Attached and Friends With Benefits. The funny thing is that there are people that truly believe in this crazy philosophy, but some use it as an excuse to sleep with as many people as they want without any apologies, because they remind the other person that they are NOT in a relationship. Ouch! Movies may glorify the idea, but the reality is feelings always become a factor and it is just a set up to have great sex that can end the friendship.