Foster Parents; Heritage?
Part 4 of 5.
In part 3 we were talking about our heritage and what we pass along to the children we foster. We made a statement
“what have you given to these foster children to carry with them, a treasure, have you left with them a everlasting lesson in love, a tradition of acceptance into your family, not as temporary guests, but as family”?
Now we offer this description of a foster child.
A child is like a tree strong and tall in the forest, where CPS likened cold-hearted lumber company, cutting down the vulnerable trees, attacking their roots of tradition. Whether those roots were dysfunctional, scattered, neglectful of proper nourishment or they lacked the desire, or knowledge to create strong roots does not matter. Instead of solidifying them enabling these children to cope with the shifting sands of adulthood for whatever reasons they have become unstable.
- Foster parents should become the temporary nutrition, the solid ground to enable them to establish new roots in nutritional soil that is their life engrafted into ours, with the heritage of their biological parents intertwined into a, new magic heritage. They are forever part of our memories, our love and our family.
If their past heritage is painful to remember, it is our responsibility to replant the early roots, offer sustenance to hang on to life. Are there a few happy memories implanted in their little minds, bio mother rocking them, or reading a story? Help them remember those treasured memories as their heritage. How do we do this? By holding this child in loving arms, helping them learn to love and trust again. Being a foster parent is not an easy or uncomplicated task.
- Heritage is; albums left behind in dresser drawers after CPS has ripped them from their homes, drawings they made as children, ribbons won in contests at school. Boxes of pictures in a closet somewhere, pictures taken out of the home after their parents went to prison, or tragically died. The many tragedies regarding children who have suffered through the actions of CPS, are the physical behavioral, emotional trauma etc. However, they are also robbing these children of their heritage, we talked about memory books that we can put together as foster parents, however, where do we obtain older pictures of this child’s life to put in that memory book, our brief history with them does not heritage make.
CPS has robbed them of their heritage, to your Examiner this word has new meaning. Thank you for sharing this experience.
Read on go to part 5. Print this off and give to a friend, or your Foster Parents Association to present to others.