Foster Parents; The Importance of Heritage?
Part 3 of 5.
Remember the meaning of the word, Heritage” refers to something inherited from the past.
Questions; If a relative cares for the child then the heritage remains intact, or does it?
The experience we mentioned at the beginning of the series, years ago my mother took in two girls whose mother died tragically, they had no place to go. Wonder if that could be why we were foster parents, hum could be. Life experience, that caused this, person to become a foster parent, your examiners parent, acted in this capacity.
One of the girls mother fostered married my brother. On the day my mother passed away, my husband sent me to a friend and neighbors house, while he handled the situation at our home. While the coroner took care of removing my mom. During this same time, things belonging to mother were removed from our home by my sister-in-law. After loading things into her car she followed me to my neighbors house and said “the last thing I remember your mother saying is that she wanted your brother to have her guitar”, my neighbor threw her out.
Recently, we traveled to Colorado to be at my brother’s bedside, this is where we discovered some of the missing items taken, so many years before, spread out on a table, missing pictures of my family, personal letters from my father to my mother, this sister in law immediately informed us that my father sent all of these things to her. Also, the most hurtful thing she could have done to me were snap shots of the precious oil paintings, painted by mother, the paintings this person removed from my home, then threw in the trash. Heritage thrown in the trash!
Standing outside seeking more pleasant scenery, the colorado mountains, tears streaming, seeking beauty not within this selfish persons oldest son joined me and held mama in loving arms lending me some strength to return to my brothers side. My brother died the morning after we left.
So what has this life experience taught? It has emphasized to your examiner how hurtful losing your heritage can be.
- Question; have you taken/kept pictures of the foster children that are/were in your home. Have you created a memory book to take with them as they walk on their uncertain way? A small piece of heritage they can carry with them? Have you made an effort to preserve their heritage no matter how scattered?
- This horrid system has uprooted these foster children, disturbed their family roots expecting them to develop new ones?. Now understand where this series is taking us. Your Heritage, or what you pass on to others that cross your path, what have you given to these foster children to carry with them, a treasure, have you left with them an everlasting lesson in love, a tradition of acceptance into your family, not as temporary guests, but as family? Or have you left with them yet another bad experience of life, an example of selfish gain, lessons of adoption bonuses?
Love is the reason to be a foster parent.
Suggested reading; Fostering Is? Part 1 / Part 2. Go on to part 4.