So what if he’s a Nicholas Baker fan and you like Nicholas Sparks?
Let’s call the whole thing off? Slow down and read between the lines
Be a Sport
Roger swings a tennis racket and a golf club every week. He works out three times a week and rides a bike every day.
A real jock, he vowed he would only date another jock- then he met Lisa. She is a young grandmother, an accomplished sculptor, walks on Ocean beach each evening and doesn’t do sports. Roger saw Lisa’s profile on OkCupid – it seemed they had nothing in common except they both volunteered for Guide Dogs for the Blind. On an impulse, he reached out and found out they could talk for hours, loved the same books (Steig Larsson and Stephen King) and both were from Chicago and the youngest of five children. He changed his mind and his heart. That happened in 2005.
The Voice of Reason
Elayne, the self-proclaimed poor little Match.com girl, and Palo Alto Paul exchanged wonderful e-mails for two weeks. She was smitten. Then they spoke on the phone and she said he sounded like John Madden, and she call the whole thing off. Her friends-smarter and less superficial-advised her to meet Paul, she did. Cupid’s sprayed love and Eros and they’ve been together for two years.
Berkeley Babes Get a Bad Rap
Not every Berkeley woman drives an antique Volvo, wears Birkenstocks, has gray hair, wears no makeup and hides in voluminous skirts. Stereotypes abound. ‘Walnut Creek Wilson’ hesitated when he received an e-mail from a Match.com woman called ‘Babs Berkeley’. He said her only picture was taken from afar. She was into photography, pottery, and playing pool. Wilson admits that was going to brush her off- then decided to engage. They exchanged numerous e-mails, spoke on the phone, met for coffee and have been inseparable ever since. That was three years ago.
Enjoy the Ride
Do you quickly scan 10 pictures a day on your online dating site? Are you merely a Photoshopper – one who only looks at the picture and never reads the profile? Slow down, Binkie.
Enjoy the ride. Rather than rushing to push the ‘delete button’ as you read online dating profiles, take the time. Try this: and reach out and connect. You never know who you will meet.
Half our life is spent trying to find something to do with the time we have rushed through life trying to save. Will Rogers,
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