Boston was just named the Worst Dressed City by GQ Magazine. On the heels of that rave review (fashion pun totally intended); our fine city was named the Least Friendly by two psychologists that surveyed 50 large U.S. cities. Could this be why it is so hard to meet a mate in Boston? Or are we just being unfairly targeted?
As far as the GQ article, there were plenty of cities that beat us out but Nashville, TN? Omaha, Nebraska? Really? Residents there dress better than Bostonians? Are they serious? Wasilla, Alaska? Has anyone even heard of this place? And what residents are they talking about? The bears?
The GQ piece is a witty article and it explains at least some things. For example, Boston has a ton of colleges and most college kids roll out of bed with no thought to fashion. The sad thing is it infers all of us could be totally undateable to anyone from a more “cosmopolitan” place because of our penchant for hooded sweatshirts and leggings. Even Martha’s Vineyard was #14 on the list and truly no one there cares what they look like. It was my home for several years and I love the island and its people but hardly anyone wears make-up or owns an iron and they really don’t care. Nothing wrong with that, of course! They are bohemian and artistic and hey, several US Presidents have gone there for summer vacation, including our current President. It is a gorgeous island but the residents there do not dress better than Bostonians.
So we look horrible and now we have the least friendly city, according to a survey of U.S. metropolises. New York is even friendlier than us. Not much can be located on the founders of this survey except they are from the University of Michigan or what the criteria for the survey was except warmth of climate was related to warmth of the residents. Well, that’s not fair! We have some cold weather and serious Nor’easters here. Could that affect our outlook and personality? The recent heat wave could help but it makes people more irritable than loving, right? Hasn’t it been proven that most riots occur during prolonged heat waves?
And as defensive as we all want to be as native Bostonians about this unfriendly label, we must admit feeling a bit off when visiting a Southern state, for example. When a stranger chimes, “How y’all doing?” we Bostonians may think, ‘What’s this person up to? Do I know them? Are they trying to steal my wallet?’ We like to see our indifference as simply being more reserved. It may be a bit untrusting at times. But, hey, our ancestors were Puritans.
The truth of the matter is we come from a city of great history and educational institutions. Some of the best colleges and hospitals in the world are here. We love our sports teams and we love our city politics and some of our politicians, especially the Kennedys. And who doesn’t appreciate the dedication of our Mayor, Thomas Menino? This is the land of the liberal Democrat. We love our seafood and the waterfront or as we say Boston “Hahba” (Harbor).
What makes us loveable and dateable is we care more about the issues of the day than what brand of jeans we own. We care about learning, fine museums and green parks. And we sure are loyal and defensive when anyone says anything bad about our city or its people. And that alone, is a great quality! Boston rocks! And anyone that hasn’t lived here just doesn’t get it!