First, you think, “he must be running late.” After a half hour, you begin blaming traffic. Then, after the first calm-me-down cocktail, you attempt to find him. You text. No response. You call him. No answer. Suddenly, your stomach gets queasy– and, you realize, gurrrl, you just been stood-up.
Now, here you are, all dressed up with no place to go [well, you can still go bar hoping]. But, jeez, didn’t this guy realize how much time it takes as gay man to get ready for a date? Probably. Did he care? Probably not.
Still, if a guy does not want to go out on a date why doesn’t he just tell the other guy? Is it better to make someone go through all the pre-dating rituals of beatifying one’s self if the guy has no intension on showing up in the first place?
“Sometimes it’s hard to get out a date,” said John Santora, from South River, New Jersey. “So, rather than call and answer a lot of why questions from the guy it’s easier not to show up or respond at all.” “I mean if you’re never gonna see the guy again does it matter.”
However, whatever the reason there has to be some form of gay man’s etiquette to properly get out of dates, opposed to the highly popular way of just never showing up.
Or, does the same sort of rules apply like in a one night stand– waking up in the bed of a stranger—trying not to wake him as you look for you clothes so you can sneak out.
The difference between the date and the one-night-stand is the guy you had a date with has your phone number. The guy you went home with probably doesn’t even remember your name.