When we’re truly honest with ourselves, we recognize that our thoughts and actions are defeating ourselves from fortune and happiness appearing in our lives. It isn’t because there isn’t enough possibility for that. “God” is always giving us opportunity, but it is with our thoughts and actions that we sabotage them. To ask “God” for a new job, more money, a new relationship, or for perfect health is useless if we’re going to appear in this new place exactly as we appeared in the last one. Until we heal our distressing internal thoughts and actions, we will turn every circumstance into the same old troublesome turmoil as before. Some of the ways we sabotage ourselves are by the roles we play. Are any of these true for you?
Get them before they get you – You can’t fire me because I quit. Do that and I’ll sue your ass! Do you really take any time to think about the situation? Do you think your abusive reactions are going to get what you really want? How is that ego working for ya?
Mr. nice guy or nice girl – You know you don’t want to do something. You just don’t want to say so. Maybe you don’t want to cause a conflict or feel the need to be the people pleaser to be liked. So you play Mr. nice guy or nice girl by doing something you don’t want to do. How often do you do this? How is it working for you? If it is not, what is it that you are going to do about it?
Change the game – How many times have you been involved in a situation and don’t like the way it’s going. You then change the game. Like when you’re in an argument with your loved one. You think you’re going to lose so you say I don’t like your tone of voice. When have you changed the game like this does your issue ever get resolved?
Spread lies and gossip – be honest here spreading lies, gossip, and creating rumors about people. All you’re doing is tearing people down. How would you feel if you were the object let’s say?
Won’t participate – Are there things that you would like to do or feel you should do but don’t participate. Maybe you know you should get involved but fears or excuses hold you back. Do you do this at work, in relationships, your health, your education, or finances? What needs to change?
Be a problem victim – Maybe you don’t like the way a situation is going or you don’t want to do something so you become a problem victim. Like guys when your spouse asks you to do the dishes and you don’t want to do them. So you break a few. Right no big deal right? Your spouse comes in and says, Stop! I’ll do them which is what you wanted in the first place. How is that working for ya in your relationships?
Your answers should offer you clues to the quality of your life. You might want to shift your distressing internal thoughts and actions.