While Dads make great referees, it is the Moms who are the great facilitators of negotiations. After all, Moms are the ones who have the most professional experience in mediating squabbles between those who can not agree. The greatest illustration of that, are arguments between siblings.
The war could be ended in a timely and diplomatic approach if both sides would do a simple little procedure. Put the Moms of all soldiers, both our side and the other side in a room together and let them settle the argument. We could even give them a title, call them A-MOM
A-MOMS would know how to ask those tough questions in an organized format that would have everyone cringing and confessing…without even being aware that they had just plead guilty. A-MOMS have a couple of secret weapons at their disposal. First of all A-MOMS are very tactical in their approach, they go in with a planned, calculated three step strategy.
1) The two of you will confess (psychological warfare)
2) You two will resolve the issue (peaceful compromise)
3) You will kiss and make up (shake hands and be friends)
Step one: Confession of all Antagonist
A-MOMS don’t care who started it, what she is interested in; is the why? He said, she said, has no place in an arbitration in which A-MOM is the presiding magistrate. The greatest asset that A-MOM possess is that they go into the mediation already knowing who started it, after all they have the ultimate in secret weapons at their disposal; eyes in the back of their heads. Their question is why is it an issue now…today? The dispute has existed for some time, what happened today to cause it to surface?
Step Two: Peaceful Resolution
A-MOMS have the Wisdom of Solomon. You will both be punished for unscrupulous behavior, doesn’t matter who started it. When A-MOM issues a sentence, everyone knows that it will be carried out to the expiration of the punishment. That termination will end at midnight of the final day of restriction; there is no early release for good behavior…good behavior is expected! The point being that your behavior is what landed you in A-MOM detention in the first place. You will learn from this experience. A-MOMS know that early release signifies weakness and can provoke future eruptions. Knowing that A-MOM prison is in-escapable allows both sides to come up with a plan of action together, that pleases A-MOM and convinces her that this little episode will not happen again, thereby granting them immunity from future harsh feelings and extradition from A-MOM.
Step Three: Synchronization
After dealing with A-MOM all sides will be scrambling to bring peaceful resolution, because it is no ones desire to be an adversary of A-MOM. It is common knowledge that A-MOMS range is more extensive that a rifle, more volatile than a bomb. Her temper is fierier than a grenade. She is more tactical than a military solider; after all she is his Mother. She is the ultimate in negotiators, her extra arsenal contains four little words that signify finite….”Because I said so”
War eradicated…..Now go brush your teeth!