You’ve got someone in mind that you want to get to know better, but you just can’t get the nerve up to ask him, right? Well, you just need to prepare yourself, that’s all. Follow these tips on how to ask someone on a date and you’ll feel more confident and ready for any response you receive.
Considerations before asking him on a date
Start with how you feel about yourself. What is scaring you so much about asking him on a date? Is it because you’re afraid he will reject you? Understood. Ask yourself what would happen if he did reject you. And then ask yourself how it would affect your daily life. If the rejection doesn’t hold much risk, you don’t have much to lose except for a hit to your self-esteem, which will repair itself in a relatively short amount of time (actually, the same amount of time it takes for a slight bit of good news to come your way). If the rejection does carry some weight, for example, he’s a co-worker and you’d have to face him every day, you may have to lay low and think about making that step on asking him on a date.
If the fear of rejections stops you
Rejection is the number one reason why many people don’t go around asking people out on dates every day. People with a high level of esteem can do this and you’ll see them having dates all the time. Are they rejected? Of course they are. They just don’t dwell on it and they repair themselves by covering it up by someone else accepting their invitation.
If you have a co-worker and if the rejection would make the working relationship uncomfortable, it’s important to think about why it would make it awkward. Just because he thinks you like him, doesn’t mean that your work has to change. If he rejects you, that means you need to put your more than friendly feelings aside and concentrate on your working relationship. While there may be a vibe at first, it will go away as you work more on work related activities.
Stepping up to the plate and asking the question
Now that you considered the reasons if you should ask him out and the reasons why you haven’t asked him out yet, it’s time to put them to the side and get your courage up to ask. The easiest way to do this is prepare yourself as much as possible by going through a few scenarios in your mind.
Answer these questions:
- Where do you plan to ask him?
- How will you ask him on the date?
- If he says no, what will you say in return?
- If he says no, you gave your response, how will you end the conversation?
- If he says yes, what will you say next?
- Will you two have a long conversation or a short one?
- How will the conversation end?
Reading these questions may have sparked some anxiety in you as well as some of your own questions. For example, where should I ask him or what should I say?
Here are some tips:
- Ask in a place that isn’t too crowded. It’s best when he is alone.
- Come right out and say, “Would you be interested in going out on a date with me sometime?”
- If he says no, you can say something like, “Okay, I understand. Well, have a good day.”
- If he says yes, ask him if he would like to do a certain activity. This means you have already thought of what you would like to do on the date. This can drive the conversation for a few minutes while you talk out the details.
- End the conversation by exchanging phone numbers.
Live and learn when it comes to relationships
There are many men out in the world and there are so many possibilities to ask them out. If you goof on the first time you try to ask someone out, don’t worry, there are others you can try on. Relationships are a part of life. Learning about relationships is just one of life’s lessons that you will figure out as long as you practice.