An adorable little boy walking down the street in Olympia with a little blue purse can elicit a smile from one passerby and just as quickly, a frown from another. As a mother it saddens me greatly to see such a stigma attached to such a simple situation – a little boy and his purse.
Why can’t a little boy occasionally carry a purse and still be seen as a rough and tumble little boy? A boy who loves cars, trains, dirt, worms, causing trouble AND his little blue purse.
Yes, my preschooler has a purse. His mommy has one. His little sister has one. Therefore, in his eyes purses are cool. One morning I walked down the stairs carrying two of my old purses for my daughter to play with. When my son saw me his eyes lit up. “My very own purse Mommy!” He exclaimed. My heart melted at the look on his face. Who am I to tell him boys aren’t supposed to like purses (there will be time enough for peer pressure as he gets older). After all, he is a tried and true little boy all his own and for the moment, he DOES like purses.
If you think about it, purses are the perfect vessel for children. Complete with pockets and zippers, purses are full of secret compartments to store sacred treasures such as Lightning McQueen cars and Thomas the Train engines.
I have heard these words come out of the mouth of a friend and another mother, “We would never buy our boys a doll.” I feel pretty confident that means they won’t splurge for a purse either. Why not, I ask. What is wrong with playing with a doll. Don’t you want your boys to grow up to be nurturing, loving fathers?
Dolls are a wonderful imaginative toy for both genders. My son has a doll as well. At times he is a loving “daddy” to Baby Matthew. Carrying him around, tucking him in and feeding him. Then someone mentions playing outside and poor Baby Matthew is quickly dropped on his head as my son races for the door (okay he still has a bit to learn before he actually becomes a father!).
I know the day will come when my son will shun this same little blue purse and doll. They won’t be “cool.” “Purses are for girls,” he’ll say. “Boy’s don’t play with dolls,” he’ll tell me.
But for now, let him be a little boy AND carry his purse.
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